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Each day of Hunger & Homelessness Awareness Week, we are going to send you an email about a topic relating to our families. Thank you for being a part of the solution!


The Hidden Homeless by Susan Ryder In the Harrisburg area, many people have lost their housing, but you won't find them living on the street.



“Do I separate myself from my kids, or do I stay on the streets with them?” asked Steve Foehlinger, of the bleak reality he faced as an unhoused father with two children.


He came to this crossroads after running the gambit of housing options, doubling up with friends and family and living in a hotel for a year. These are options for some folks dealing with homelessness, but they come at a steep emotional and financial cost.


After living with friends, Foehlinger, his young son and daughter had to move when their hosting family lost their own housing.


“When you are trying to move forward with your life, sometimes when you double up, you take on that extra stress from the family you’re living with,” he said.


Foehlinger is one of many people in the Harrisburg area who can be described as the “hidden homeless.” They’re not readily visible as people lacking permanent housing. You won’t see them in the tent encampment under the South Bridge or sleeping in the park. Their numbers are substantial, but they’re not included in the annual count of the homeless population.


Instead, after losing their housing, they scrambled to find whatever shelter they could so they didn’t end up living on the street. They couch-surfed. They paid outrageous weekly rents to live in cramped, unsafe, rundown hotels. They shuffled among friends, relatives and even sympathetic strangers—a week here, a week there.


Often, like Foehlinger, they have children in tow.


Joanne Taylor, her husband and daughter found themselves homeless nine years ago after a rent-to-own opportunity went sour.


“The house that we went after was condemned because of its foundation and structure,” Taylor said.


The family moved into a nonfunctional RV parked on an out-of-the-way piece of property. It was basically a box to keep them out of the elements, but it didn’t do that very well. Taylor broke up a bit when she described their time there.


“If you’ve ever seen the movie, ‘Frozen,’ where everything freezes up, that’s what our windows looked like,” she said.


Eventually, the family moved into a hotel. On the upside, it was warmer, but the downsides were plenty. The cost, for example. The least amount Taylor has ever spent on a hotel was $300 a week. Foehlinger has paid as much as $500.


“Most people see it [living in a hotel] from their perspective,” said Aisha Mobley, community mobilization and outreach coordinator at Christian Churches United of the Tri-County Area.

However, it definitely is not the Marriott.


“There’s a difference between staying in a hotel because you’re on business and staying in a hotel because you’re homeless,” Foehlinger said.


When asked about the hardest part of living in a hotel, Kalieb Foehlinger chimed in from the background.


“The space!” he said. “You have a bed here, a bed here, right near your bathroom. You don’t have much space to move around.”


Storing belongings adds to the confined conditions.


Both Foehlinger and Taylor mentioned how needed repairs were neglected in their hotel rooms. During the August heat wave, Taylor’s hotel air conditioner died. It hasn’t been repaired yet. They’ve also had an infestation of cockroaches, which caused them to leave the hotel they lived in for three years.

Stuck in a Hole

As the coordinator of a community center in a local hotel, created by Fishing Creek Salem UMC, Marty Wagner is very familiar with hotel life. He described what it’s like.


“Living in a 12-by-12 room with a minimum of two children, 24 hours a day, seven days a week, with all your stuff, a dorm-sized refrigerator and the only way to cook your food is a microwave, ” he said.


He pointed out that’s why so many budget hotels have grills outside the rooms—so people can cook for themselves.


Wagner said that at least 40 families live in this particular hotel and described the money vacuum it creates.


“Once they get into this situation, it’s super difficult to get out of it because of their credit,” he said. “I would say that 90% to 95% that live here have jobs.”


Bad credit is one reason people find themselves in a hotel.


“People end up in hotels because you pay by the day,” Mobley said. “They take everybody.”


She said that the lack of inventory makes the housing market very competitive, and people with poor credit, any type of criminal background, reentering society after imprisonment, or an eviction find it very difficult to rent. Add the application costs, first month’s rent and security deposit, and it’s darn near impossible.


“They are stuck in a hole,” Mobley said.


Being stuck in this hole also makes them hidden. They aren’t on the street, and they aren’t on paper. These people are not included in the “point-in-time count,” done once a year, to measure homelessness in the United States.


And “they can’t get into coordinated entry,” Mobley said.


Coordinated entry is the process by which folks enter the shelter system in Dauphin County. It’s like a funnel in which applicants’ names go, and they get assigned to a shelter according to their need. However, folks in hotels, doubled up or couch surfing are not eligible, according to the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development’s (HUD) definition of homelessness (it has four) to enter coordinated entry. So, they are blocked from the shelter system.


To become eligible for a shelter spot, people like Steve Foehlinger would have to be living in an “uninhabitable” space, like his car, according to HUD. However, if he chose this, his children could be taken from him. To keep his kids, he continued to pay exorbitant hotel rates.


Costs aren’t the only issue with hotels.


“There’s a lot of bad things that can happen there,” Wagner said.


Hotel residents are emotionally, physically and financially vulnerable.


Mobley described a situation in which a man insinuated himself into a single-parent family living in a hotel. He presented himself to the school as the children’s father. The children reported to the school that their mom cried every night, and they needed help. Eventually, the family just disappeared.


“Human trafficking is rampant in hotels,” Mobley said.


Foehlinger’s housing struggles now seem like a bad but vivid dream. With the help of a local church, he emerged from hidden homelessness and rents a nice home, with homemade pickles on the shelf, full cupboards and a comfy living room where his 4-year-old daughter napped.


“Sometimes, people become homeless because they choose to want to live like that,” Foehlinger said. “And there are people out there, that are the best people in the world, and they just have dumb luck, things happen. And almost everything they tried, they still get shot down at every angle.”


Family Promise HCR Spotlight


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Welcome to the team!

Last month we welcomed a new member to the FPHCR team, our case manager, Christine Rockey! (Thunderous applause.) We are so excited! She's hit the ground running, and we know she's going to encourage and assist our families in the true spirit of care and professionalism that we value at Family Promise. Check out this video to learn more about her! Welcome, Christine!




FPHCR featured on Fox43!

Fox43 recently did a feature called "How the affordable housing crisis is hitting families in central Pennsylvania," and they interviewed one of our families. Affordable housing truly is an overwhelming crisis. Click here to learn more about it.

Best. Staff. Ever. by Matthew Wagner

I often say that we have the best staff ever. We work tirelessly for the families we serve, supporting each other, and promoting Family Promise HCR. Therefore, it’s been great to recently see the community recognize our amazing staff as well.

  1. From the moment Susan Ryder came in for her interview and jumped in to help with a plumbing issue (true story – and in her interview clothes!), we knew we had our new Community Engagement Associate. Susan has an extensive network in the community and is everywhere, doing everything, ALL the time. No further evidence of this is needed than her recent award for her freelance work with The Burg Magazine. She was awarded second place in the Excellence in Reporting on Diversity - Equity and Inclusion during the Keystone Media Awards. Perhaps if you ask nicely (and make a small donation to Family Promise), she’d sign a copy of the article for you! If you’d like to email her your congratulations, you can do so at susan@familypromisehcr.org.

  2. Chou Hallegra, our resident mental health contractor, has made a WORLD of difference in helping our families navigate the trauma of experiencing homelessness, providing tools for them in dealing with the complexities of communal living, and serving as a resource for our staff. For this reason and for all she does for the community at large through Grace Hope & Consulting LLC, Chou was recently recognized by the Central PA Business Journal as one of their 40 Under 40 Nominees. If you want to send Chou your congratulations, email her at chou@familypromisehcr.org.


Obviously, none of us do what we do for public recognition. The look on the faces of our families as they achieve their goals is more than enough award. However, the fact that the public is recognizing our amazing staff is proof of my assertion that we have the best staff ever!!!


Turkey Time Tips

This time of year always reminds us how lucky we are to have what we have. We often feel inspired to give back in some way, but it can be overwhelming. Here are some suggestions for simple things to do this season. 1. Write someone a thank you note. 2. Donate socks to a local shelter. 3. Check in on a neighbor. 4. Share FPHCR updates on your personal social media pages. 5. Say a prayer for families in our program. It doesn't have to be a big thing to make a big difference.


Wishbone Wishlist

By donating everyday items to Family Promise, you can make a difference in the lives of families experiencing homelessness who are working hard to regain sustainable independence. Please see the list below for items our families need on a regular basis.

  • Trash bags (not Good Sense)

  • Printer paper

  • Dish soap

  • Computers

  • Laundry detergent

  • Swiffer mop pads

  • Swiffer wet jet solution

  • Febreeze

  • Women's razors

  • Baby wipes

  • Shampoo

  • Shaving cream

  • AA and AAA batteries

  • Ziploc bags, foil, and plastic wrap

  • Paper plates

  • Queen inflatable mattresses

  • Gift cards to Sheetz, Giant, and Walmart - These help families with gas to go to work, food beyond what we provide, and medicine. Many items families need can be bought with these cards, allowing them to save their money to go towards housing while they are here. Another great thing about gift cards... they take up very little space!

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Success: Putting in the Work by Stacey Coldren

During the time I have worked with Demetrius in the Road to Success program, he has been working hard to improve his credit, work on proper budgeting, and learn to have confidence in himself. All that hard work has paid off! Demetrius was APPROVED for the Road to Success Members 1st Car Incentive Program this month, and this week he was able to drive off the car lot with his very own car! While sitting with Demetrius in the car salesroom, he was in awe of how far he has come. He said, "I did all this in 2 years, I can't wait to see what I can do in the next 5." As you can see from this picture, he is one proud car owner!


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Success: Sharing our Stories by Matthew Wagner

Filmmaker Jean-Luc Godard famously stated, “Sometimes reality is too complex. Stories give it form.”


This is why I strongly believe that the stories we share about the families we serve, like Demetrius in the story above, both their successes and challenges, are one of our most important assets. So, how do we do share these stories?

  • Newsletter (like the stories Stacey and Susan shared above)

  • Social media platforms

  • Community events

  • Speaking engagements

We have so many stories to tell, and we want to share with our community! The challenge becomes finding other opportunities and having the time to do so.


This is where we could use YOUR help.

  • Do you belong to a:

-Sunday School class

-Faith-based group looking for presenters

-Community group (Rotary Club, scout troop, Lions Club, etc.)

-Business looking for outreach opportunities

  • Do you know of or have connections with community events, fairs, or festivals where we could have a booth?

  • Would you like to help share these stories? Consider joining our Outreach or Network Relations Committees!

Whether you know of opportunities to share our families’ stories or want to be part of the story-telling process, we can use your help to share our greatest asset. Any chance we have to explain how we are changing lives is a great opportunity to introduce people to Family Promise. Email me for more information: matthew@familypromisehcr.org.

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Success: Our Annual Report!

Our Annual Report for the 22-23 year is now available. Click here to check it out on our website or download it here.


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Success: Getting Back Up by Susan Ryder Sometimes, I think, success is just remaining standing, and moving forward despite all the setbacks. It reminds me of a quote from Rocky.



This morning a guest told me a bit of her story. About 8 months ago, shortly after her son was born, she had a job and day care all lined up. She had about $1,200 saved and was looking forward to moving from the program she was in, into her own place. It had taken about two months to navigate onboarding, so she was ready to go! The Friday before she was to begin her job, she found out that the day care provider she’d chosen was only open until 5 p.m. Her work hours prevented her from getting to the day care by that time, and with no one to back her up and pick up her son, she had to quit that hard-fought job.

She then worked at a day care, with her son there, to be able to make some money. Now she is on the cusp again. Her son started day care today, and she begins her new job a week from today. She must be terrified that history will repeat itself. Part of our job here is to talk that through. It’s to help guests know that they can step over the threshold into their new future, even as obstacles have been placed in their way many times. If it does fall through, we’ll be there to help them figure it out, and realize that the success is continuing to get up and try again.


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